Thursday, May 5, 2011

Sometimes Life Sucks!

Yes, indeed, sometimes life sucks!  No nice way of putting it.  I have been absent from my blog, struggling with some of that "life sucks" stuff.  Truthfully, I've been too spent emotionally and physically to be able to even write about it.  Then, I spent a lot of time debating whether I would blog about what's going on and I finally came to this conclusion:  

I either have to be real and write about the real things going on in my life or quit blogging altogether because I am not the "put on a good show and fake it" kinda of gal.  People who know me personally know that I am a brutally honest person no matter what you ask me...don't come to me expecting gloss lol.  I believe in being honest in the kindest way possible but always honest.  I'm just not wired to be otherwise... I can't count the number of times my honesty has turned people off but that's okay because I want people in my life who can accept me as I am.  

This blog in future will have some very honest possibly painful subject content and if you can't handle it, I won't be offended if you don't read me anymore.  There will be days when there will be no quilt content just "life sucks" content.  But, I figure  "hey, it's my blog!" so I will write honestly about what I want or need to.  I have had some positive encouragement to blog about what's going on and to those people..."THANK YOU FOR YOUR SUPPORT!"

So, this is the deal...my young, healthy, robust 48 year old husband has cancer. 

There, it's said.  I know lots of people have cancer and worse things and we all know people with cancer but until you have sat in that chair in the Dr's office and had it said to your face well....it's just another whole ballgame after that.  It came as quite a shock because as I said...hubby is healthy as a horse otherwise.  It all started as a very quick swelling in his neck that came out of nowhere in Feb.  And that is all I can write for today. 


35 comments:

Darlene said...

During this challenging time in your life know that you have friends here that will always be willing to 'listen'.

I'm not going to go on and on but simply leave a (HUG).

Marj said...

Vent as much as you need to and know that there are people out here that can listen and give support. I will put positive healing thoughts your way.

Brenda said...

Praying for you today. I think it helps to be open and honest in your blog. In any event it gives you a place to let out all those pent up emotions, thoughts and feelings whether they be good or bad.

Stitched With Prayer said...

Vent away! Share what you feel like sharing or nothing at all if you don't, but know that you will have friends that care and will be here to listen and offer our support. I am so sorry that you have to face this struggle. I will be keeping both you and your husband in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs...

tpott said...

Five years ago I was that 40 yr,old person sitting across from the doctor. I'm sorry for your pain. I wish their were something to say or do. I know from experience (whether or not you're religious, I'm not a holy roller) That just knowing that prayers are being sent your way helps. Feel free to vent, it helps to talk about it. I'll be praying for your family and a good outcome. My email is tpott@optonline please e-mail me if you need someone to talk too, I have a shoulder if you need it.

Butterfly George said...

We don't know each other but I know the roller-coaster of sitting in that chair......My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours. Georgeann

Paula said...

Having a place to share what's hurting is part of the healing. I'm glad you've decided to be open and honest. Many thoughts and prayers for you and your husband.

Andrea R said...

Big hugs Shelley!

paulette said...

Hi Shelley,
My heart goes out to you and your husband and to your families. Hearing those words would be devastating to say the least. You vent all you want! We will be here for you...and yes your right..Life can suck! Just remember that the medical field has come along way in fighting this disease...lean on those doctors, your family and friends and don't forget your blogging friends...we are here for you!!

You take care!
Paulette

Leigh Ann said...

Thank you so much for be putting this sad news on your blog. Now you will both have all of our prayers and support during this difficult time.

Quilt Hollow said...

Shelley, I'm glad you made the decision to put this on your blog because you are going to have a whole heck of alot more support here from us bloggers who have become your FRIENDS!!
It is unfortunate not a single one of us has a magical wand to make this ugly thing go away...but what we do have is lots of prayers and support for you both!!

Cathi said...

I'm glad you decided to write about what's going on in your life -- 'cause I think you'll find there's a lot of support to be found through your blog. Vent about this any time!
Lots of hugs and healing thoughts for both of you headed your way.
Cathi

WoolenSails said...

I am sorry to hear about your husband. Mine has problems with his skin because he is so light, so he goes for treatments. It is hard to go through cancers, they are one of those things that scare us all. I pray that they caught it in time and that he can get treatments that will rid him of it.

Debbie

Winona said...

Shelley, I am so sorry to read this. I will keep your family in my prayers. By posting about this here on your blog, you will have lots of needed support. (((HUGS))) to you.

Briarside Lane said...

Hi Shelley... I am so sorry to read your news. Thoughts and prayers for your DH, you and your family.

Writing/blogging may be your catharsis, a means for tension release and calming, as well as your quilting and stitching or other hobbies. And sometimes we just need a break from everything and everyone in order to just re-group.

Hugs... Karen

Barb said...

So sorry to hear!
I admire you honesty - hopefully your blog can be a source of support!
well wishes for you husband

Claudia said...

Hugs to you and your family.. Yes, life does suck now and then. We are here for you.

Crunchy Diva said...

((hugs)) to you. i'm so sorry that you had to hear that. my thoughts with you & your family. your right it's your blog you write what you want to write about.

Hand Quilting Nana said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

I look forward to reading your blog and hopefully hearing that your husband will once again be a healthy man.

Linda

Cool Cats and Quilts said...

Shell, I am so sorry, hope all goes well. My husband was diagnosed with testicular cancer at 39, so I know what you are going through, and it is horrible! If you need some one to talk to, I am there. Try to think positive, it helps. My husband is fine now, thank God! He also was as healthy as they come.

Anonymous said...

We are all here for you and your family. You have so many friends who want to help, please feel free to talk about anything you want. We want to listen and be there for you. See you soon! Hugs to you and hubby! Connie

Mary Lou Casada said...

Of COURSE, you and hubby are in my prayers! And of course, I'll be taking this journey with you as best as I can -- knowing, too, that the Great Physician (He who heals all our diseases!) can and will do for y'all beyond what we can ask or imagine! Prepare lots of hand-projects; you'll need them for doctor visits and such; keep us in the loop, and I'll continue to keep you in my prayers!!
Love,
Mary Lou

Janet said...

Prayers and hugs for you and your hubby.

West Michigan Quilter said...

I am so very sorry. I can't even begin to imagine what you must be going through. Know that we are here for you. I'll keep you in my prayers. Hugs.

Linda H said...

Shelley, so very sorry to read this news. Know that you have many friends here in Blogland who will support you and listen when you need to vent. Will keep you both in my thoughts and prayers...

Betty Lou said...

That is the wonderful thing about having friends, friends in person or bloggers friends, they are there to listen. In good times and bad. Prayers and hugs to both of you.

Kaaren said...

Don't EVER apologize for being 'you', Shelley.

I'm sending you and your hubby the BIGGEST hug of support across the Bay.

Fight like you've never fought before. My prayers and thoughts are with you both.

QuiltSue said...

All I can say is how sorry I am. You're right, sometimes life sucks. As you said, this is your blog, so you write what you want and people have the choice of reading or not reading.

Michele said...

So sorry to hear that Shelley! I'm sending you many hugs and good hopes! Please blog as you feel the need to and know that we are here to listen to whatever you need and want to say, the good and the bad. It is your blog and it is up to you what to put on it. Hugs from Michele!

Sherryl said...

More than a hug, I'm sending you a long, hard, squeeeeeze, with a little bit of rocking back and forth and lots of shared deep breaths. Keep writing. Or not. Do what you need to do to get through.
sunshdws@yahoo.com

Carol said...

Sending you lots and lots and lots of good thoughts and prayers.

Stitched With Prayer said...

Thought I'd stop by and send another ((((((((((HUG)))))))))). Keeping you and yours in my prayers.

onlymehere said...

I initially found you a few weeks ago as a sewing blog. I'm so sorry to hear about your husband. I use my blog also as a family blog and sewing blog. I like getting to know people. My hopes and prayers for a full recovery go out to your husband and I pray that you may have the strength to do those things you need to do for your family and to help him as he deals with this.
Cindy

Sinta Renee said...

That is a tough battle and I am so sorry to hear this news as I was catching up on your blog today. But bless your hearts, I know you are strong and will be a great support for your husband. I have had learn so much for my husband (different issue) but that is the best thing, be informed, ask questions= win! Prayers are amazingly helpful. You are in my thoughts... and my prayers:)

Heather said...

Shelley, so sorry to hear about your hubby. my thoughts are with you. Please send a private email with your mailin address and I'll put something in the mail.

heatherdpear at hotmail dot com